Who is Miss Kate?

A lot of you probably know who I am and my story but I do think I’m gaining some new followers from this blog so here we go. Sorry if this is utterly boring!


First and foremost I am a single mom to the most awesome 3 year old little man. He has the key to my heart which is probably why I have such a hard time finding a guy. They must really be worth it if they are taking away my precious time with my son.

I work for two different non profit organizations in Pittsburgh planning fundraising events to help better this awesome city. I love Pittsburgh. I grew up here. I root for every sports team even if they do suck!

Ive done some modeling off and on. Been in a few calendars, was a finalist for Maxims hometown hotties, and in a couple of commercials and fashion shows. I enjoy it but again when I started getting into it seriously it took me away from home and my son. So now its very rare that I will take on a job.

I have a disease called aplastic anemia. In many ways its compared to leukeimia. I get sick very easily and have had many blood transfusions since I was diagnosed a few years ago. However I did go through ATG treatment this year and have been doing significantly better. Knock on wood.

So why did I start this blog? I love to write when I have something on my mind. I love to rant and speak the truth. If you don’t like what I say then too bad. Maybe you just shouldn’t bother reading. I mainly do it for me and if you enjoy what I have to say then great.

So that’s pretty much it….or all your gonna get right now. If you have any questions feel free to ask. It helps give me some writing topics too!


The list

So honestly…how many of you all have a list? You know, requirements that someone must meet to have a decent relationship. I always wonder if they do us good or set us up for failure.

I could go on with what my list consists of but that would bore you and then I’d be giving my secrets away. One thing I have realized is that you can’t expect someone to meet every point on your list. I do believe you need to have a top three though. If the person doesn’t meet those three than you just move on. But not meeting number 9 on your lists is no big deal.

Maybe this makes me too picky but I feel like in order to be happy we all need to be picky. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. List it or not….and what are some of your requirements?

Online Dating

Match.com has conducted a survey which states 17% of those married in the past three years met online. It is obviously a growing method of meeting people nowadays but is it really the best option for finding a future partner?

Reasons for joining a dating site range from the person not enjoying the bar scene to someone being new to the area. All the reasons are great for online dating but why don’t people want to meet their future partner in a grocery store or at the laundromat like we used to?

For me, as much as I hate it, I actually prefer online dating. You can weed through the bad, creepy or just outright annoying. I like to take the time and get to know someone before I meet them so I know whether its worth my time or not.

Granted its very difficult because not everyone has the same incentives or morals but I know if you hold out long enough you may just meet THE ONE.

Beards – Hot or Not?

I have noticed that recently more and more men are sporting beards. Are they going through some thirty something crisis? Is it keeping their face warm in the cold? Or is it just the “in” thing this year?


Personally,  I prefer a clean shaved man over a hairy bearded one.  They are scratchy, itchy, and remind me of serial killers. I have to admit though….now I sit and wonder what a man would look like with facial hair.


During my research for this article I learned about Movember which is a month long event where men grow mustaches to raise awareness of prostate cancer. So if you are just growing facial hair for the heck of it or have thought about sporting a mustache you might want to check into the Movember Foundation.

So is it the in thing right now? I guess it all depends on who you ask. Some guys can pull it off and some simply can’t. However….I’ll take mine freshly shaved!
Wanna see what you’d look like with a beard? There are many apps out there. I used one called Hair & Beard. I don’t think I can pull off that bearded lady look. What do you think?!

Where’s Thanksgiving?

With Thanksgiving four days away you would think you would see stores decorated for the holiday with cornucopias and turkeys. However when I went into Target the other day it was all Christmas. I really wanted to get a brown sweater vest for my son to wear at our big family dinner but everything was red and green. I found a baby’s first thanksgiving shirt in the clearance rack…..but the holiday isn’t even over yet!

Yes, I have to admit that I love Christmas and my tree is already up. I feel like thanksgiving is a prelude to Christmas. Since I don’t have any Thanksgiving decorations for turkey day I’m still going to make sure my house is decorated for he holiday. I mean after all the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade is really an early Christmas parade.


Maybe if there was more of an emphasis on thanksgiving it would be more enjoyable. Lets pull out our cornucopias and leaves. I mean after all thanksgiving is a pretty awesome holiday. You can eat as unhealthy as you want and watch football until you pass out. So enjoy your Thanksgiving and worry about Christmas on black Friday……ugh that’s a whole different topic!


My hatred towards men

Let me start by saying I have not sworn off men. I do hope I can find the right man for me but the process has been brutal on me and thought I would share everything that has happened that caused me to have issues with men.

It all started with my birth father. He was a drugged up asshole….and that’s being nice! My birth mother left him and my sisters and I were sent to be raised with my aunt and uncle. My uncle who I now call dad has been one of the very few positive men in my life and I really hope I can find a guy exactly like him (well with better fashion sense!)


                                             My dad…styling

It seems like I can never find an honest, funny, hardworking man like him. Ive dated guys that lie, cheat, and use me as that rebound girl. If a guy tells you he loves you why would he lie behind your back? Why would a guy say he likes you and then two days later hes in a relationship with someone else?

I know I’m no cakewalk. I have my issues. I am not very open with my feelings. I’m stubborn. Like every girl I can be bitchy and a pain in the ass but none of those justify why I get treated the way I have.

I was engaged twice to a guy that I thought was the man for me. We had a child together and he became the best thing to happen to me even though I never wanted kids. As much as I wanted things to work out with my sons father our relationship was full of problems. I’ve pretty much been a single parent ever since my son was born.


                                            My amazing son

Now its even harder to find a decent guy because he must be someone I’m willing to bring around my child. Even though ive had my issues with men it has helped me become stronger. I know what to look for and when to run. I do think it has caused problems with some relationships that may have turned into something good but everything happens for a reason and if I keep my standards high the perfect man will come around.